Positive Energy participants speak out
Speaking openly about an experience of mental illness can be a scary prospect for people
of all ages and from all walks of life.
For people in the Chinese community, this can be even more nerve-wracking because of the
stigma associated with mental illness. Stephen (left) and Jason participated in the
Chinese Like Minds campaign (Kai Xin
Xing Dong) Positive Energy in 2013 to reduce stigma.
Good friends triumph over self-stigma
Stephen, a commercial cleaner based in Mt Albert, was diagnosed with bipolar disorder
in 1995. When he visited his family in Hong Kong and they were talking about his mental
illness, they closed the door and the windows. They said, ‘don’t let the neighbours
know’. “Over there, the community still thinks you’re a problem,” Stephen says.
He believes the situation is better in New Zealand because Kiwis are more accepting of
people with experience of mental illness. However, he is still affected by
self-stigma. “I don’t disclose [to many] because of stigma,” says Stephen. “Only family,
and my close friends in Hong Kong, know. Self-stigma and fear of rejection have stopped
the 57-year-old from confiding in his girlfriend, as he still views his mental illness
as a “boundary” between himself and others.
“If I say I have bipolar, there’s a 50 per cent chance she will say goodbye to me,
and a 50 per cent she will accept me,” he says. “Normally in Asian culture, people
can’t accept mental illness. Their philosophy is that mental illness is a bad
balance. It’s like good angels and bad angels, and I’m a bad angel.”
Stephen is grateful for the ongoing support he receives from his friends. “They say, ‘we
don’t care. We have been friends for more than 10 years’. Basically, I’m very
lucky.” Stephen’s advice to people struggling with self-stigma is to “be positive”.
Strength from perseverance
Jason Chow is a high achieving engineer who works in Auckland’s CBD, but life hasn’t
always been easy. He has experienced three major episodes of depression during
his working life – one of which included panic attacks.
All three times Jason has looked after his health by taking leave and seeking help. When
he first experienced mental health problems, Jason took on a lot of self-stigma.
“I’m in a culture where people think you’re crazy and have this bad perception of
you. My aunty committed suicide 20 years ago and an uncle committed suicide last
year because of psychological issues. Mental illness is quite a hidden condition.”
However, the 31-year-old believes it’s good for people to be honest about their
experience of mental illness because it raises awareness and gives other people the
opportunity to help.
“At the bottom of my heart, I’m a little nervous that people will discriminate, but it is
more important to help others,” he says. “Now I love telling them because I want people
to know that what they’re going through is normal.” While he’s had a rocky time with his
mental health, he is positive about the future.
“Every time I had a relapse and recovered, I felt stronger. Help and support works, as
long as you give it time. Persevere, because you can recover.”